Power of believing in yourself
The power of believing in yourself is the confirmation of knowing you are good enough
The power of believing in yourself is the confirmation that you are deserving
The power of believing in yourself is so strong because no matter who is around
No one can ever take it away from you because its yours
The power of believing in yourself is the power to validate who you are
The power of believing in yourself is trusting
The power of believing in yourself feels like victory in your heart
The power of believing in yourself feels safe
The power of believing in yourself is true love
The power of believing in yourself is the energy of who you are
The power of believing in yourself brings ultimate joy
The power in believing in yourself feels like freedom
The power in believing in yourself is ultimate passion
The power of believing in yourself is Inner spirit
The power of believing in yourself is in each one of us and sometimes lost
The power to believe in ourselves is always 100% true for us
The power to believe in ourselves is always being grateful for the outcome even if it’s not what you were hoping for.
The power of believing in yourself always feels empowering
The power of believing in yourself feels good in our hearts
4 Steps to power of believing in yourself
1. Love yourself and know you are always good enough
2. Write down affirmations that feel good to you
3. You must believe the affirmations
4. Create the discipline to practice all of the above in a mirror
I have realized at 37 that the power to believe in myself is all we ever need
How can you apply the power of believing within you?
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Monday, November 10, 2008
Invest in yourself ?
So if we were stranded on a desert island What would be our priority…
Food, water, happiness, present moment, me, myself and I -----huh
Well there is always a reason why the flight attendant on a plane tells you to place the oxygen mask on your face first before helping a child or someone next to you. The theory behind that is that you cannot help other people if you do not help yourself.
So how can you apply that to your life? Why is it so hard for us to put ourselves first and do something good for “ Yourself.” Well let’s see, there is society that tells us everyone else goes first, there are mom’s who do believe that everyone else comes first , there are cultures that dictate everyone else comes first etc.
The purpose of me writing this article is for you to begin thinking about how you can put yourself first and invest in the best " YOU. "
Invest in yourself by getting a massage , read a book for an hour even if the laundry is piled up, delegate the dishes so you can rest, go for a walk, take an art class, meet a favorite friend for dinner, skim a magazine with no interruptions, hot cup of coffee alone, visit a nice museum
Most important thing to remember about Investing in yourself is that you begin to feel better, you gain some emotional health, you become better to everyone else and you gain calmness and patience. Most importantly, you gain more joy.
Investing in yourself allows self growth and good health because you gave herself time for you.
What could you do today to invest in yourself?
Who are you giving your oxygen mask to and how can you get it back ?
Food, water, happiness, present moment, me, myself and I -----huh
Well there is always a reason why the flight attendant on a plane tells you to place the oxygen mask on your face first before helping a child or someone next to you. The theory behind that is that you cannot help other people if you do not help yourself.
So how can you apply that to your life? Why is it so hard for us to put ourselves first and do something good for “ Yourself.” Well let’s see, there is society that tells us everyone else goes first, there are mom’s who do believe that everyone else comes first , there are cultures that dictate everyone else comes first etc.
The purpose of me writing this article is for you to begin thinking about how you can put yourself first and invest in the best " YOU. "
Invest in yourself by getting a massage , read a book for an hour even if the laundry is piled up, delegate the dishes so you can rest, go for a walk, take an art class, meet a favorite friend for dinner, skim a magazine with no interruptions, hot cup of coffee alone, visit a nice museum
Most important thing to remember about Investing in yourself is that you begin to feel better, you gain some emotional health, you become better to everyone else and you gain calmness and patience. Most importantly, you gain more joy.
Investing in yourself allows self growth and good health because you gave herself time for you.
What could you do today to invest in yourself?
Who are you giving your oxygen mask to and how can you get it back ?
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Embracing Change -Positive Change and the Unexpected
So I wanted to write today about the program I created – “ Embracing change “
I guess until a few weeks ago I never realized that this too could apply to an unexpected change. So what happens to us when we have an unexpected change or a quick pivotal change caused by a circumstance that you have no control over? Well when I had a situation occur I began to fight or resist the circumstance in order to cope. There are 2 reasons I write this article 1) we cannot control unexpected change 2) we can only control our feelings involved in the change 3) how we as human beings can resist it or accept it
Resisting the change feels like pushing the problem away or wallowing in it for so long that you become an emotional mess. Allowing the unexpected change feels like you could think clearly and gain some clarity. When I had a unexpected change occur a few weeks ago. I went through the above process: mad and sad,
How often does this happen to us in our lives and we seem to fight the circumstance or really the feeling that comes along with the circumstance?
Traffic is a good example –get mad at the traffic or accept that you will get there when you arrive. On a more serious life note there is : divorce, losing your job, relationship break ups, weight gain, bad health
Can we really control the outcome of these events? Can we really control an experience that happens to us? Well the answer here is no for the most part…..What we can control is how we feel about the circumstance. I know that experiencing a loss creates feelings but the danger comes when we don’t reach for a better feeling place in order to get through the situation that is so unexpected.
You can resist a feeling by using denial, you can resist a feeling by fighting it and you can resist a feeling by running from it.
How do you cope with the unexpected change or circumstance?
How do you do this? 5 words to keep in mind –ALLOW - I encourage clients to allow themselves to go through the feelings they are feeling and to also reach for a better feeling thoughts.
The thoughts we have are powerful and when we choose to believe just one that creates suffering or pain we find ourselves in a negative frame of mind attracting bad things.
Healthier approach to the unexpected change
Allow
Go through feelings
Accept unexpected
Reach for a better feeling thought
I guess until a few weeks ago I never realized that this too could apply to an unexpected change. So what happens to us when we have an unexpected change or a quick pivotal change caused by a circumstance that you have no control over? Well when I had a situation occur I began to fight or resist the circumstance in order to cope. There are 2 reasons I write this article 1) we cannot control unexpected change 2) we can only control our feelings involved in the change 3) how we as human beings can resist it or accept it
Resisting the change feels like pushing the problem away or wallowing in it for so long that you become an emotional mess. Allowing the unexpected change feels like you could think clearly and gain some clarity. When I had a unexpected change occur a few weeks ago. I went through the above process: mad and sad,
How often does this happen to us in our lives and we seem to fight the circumstance or really the feeling that comes along with the circumstance?
Traffic is a good example –get mad at the traffic or accept that you will get there when you arrive. On a more serious life note there is : divorce, losing your job, relationship break ups, weight gain, bad health
Can we really control the outcome of these events? Can we really control an experience that happens to us? Well the answer here is no for the most part…..What we can control is how we feel about the circumstance. I know that experiencing a loss creates feelings but the danger comes when we don’t reach for a better feeling place in order to get through the situation that is so unexpected.
You can resist a feeling by using denial, you can resist a feeling by fighting it and you can resist a feeling by running from it.
How do you cope with the unexpected change or circumstance?
How do you do this? 5 words to keep in mind –ALLOW - I encourage clients to allow themselves to go through the feelings they are feeling and to also reach for a better feeling thoughts.
The thoughts we have are powerful and when we choose to believe just one that creates suffering or pain we find ourselves in a negative frame of mind attracting bad things.
Healthier approach to the unexpected change
Allow
Go through feelings
Accept unexpected
Reach for a better feeling thought
Monday, August 18, 2008
How do you define CHANGE ?
What is change and how do we define it?
What is it about change that makes it so scary or uncomfortable?
Is it fear of the unknown and uncertainty?
Why are we willing to compromise our true desires because of fear of change?
I define change as wanting something different. Whether it is a physical change, mental change, or career change
It has been my experience that most people will experience this in there career. They will compromise there dreams and stick with what they believe is security to there life in there jobs.
Is it really fear that we feel or is it our thoughts dictating our life? I think it is both. When I was at my last position I remember thinking that I didn’t want to be a quitter if I resigned. Well as you can see that thought was causing me to feel distressed and then created the action of doing nothing. The result of the thought and feelings was-I would stop dead in my tracks and force myself to stay in a place that I felt was toxic and unhealthy.
So I am here to say that life does happen after realizing that your own thoughts can hold you captive to our lives or in a cube. See we all have thoughts that could turn into beliefs and then they become limiting because they stop us from doing what we want to do.
Where do the beliefs come from?
Some of them come from our own rules and expectations that we place on our selves.
Some of them we got as children, some of the beliefs we picked up along the way of life. But I know for sure a lot of them come from our own society or what the world tells us.
Make a steady income, save for retirement, kids must go to a private school, don’t leave work early people will think I am lazy, things will work itself out, the harder you work the more money you will make, I am truly happy, but why do I feel so discontent -stay at the job you have you own so much pension, stay at my job because I have been here for so long, but why do I feel dissatisfied -so as you can see these beliefs can dictate your life because it creates blockage, feeling stuck and most importantly stops you from living your true desire.
Most of the sentences above could be thoughts at one point that have now become limiting beliefs because in some way it is causing you distress at some level or a bit of suffering but most importantly it is holding you back from getting what you want.
The other thing I would recall is accepting that you want change and being true to what you want. After accepting you want change, allow yourself to embrace that feeling of wanting change rather than introduce worry, fear or stress. When we begin to experience worry, fear, stress then we are creating resistance to change in some way and it may come from our thinking. Let your heart mange your life and use your mind as a tool to reach the goals you want. When our negative thoughts/limiting beliefs get in the way of our true desires then we know that there may be some resistance. For some of us this may not be the case and they hop skip to the next opportunity, take the risk, create a career transition and begin a discovering and exploring what they may like. I guess what I mean by career transition is doing something totally different. Doing that one thing you have truly desired to do. Not just desire but yearn for.
What kind of change do I yearn for?
What kind of work would allow me to follow my dream?
What talent or strength do I have that I enjoy and would love to capitalize on?
We each have something that comes natural to us, but the key is what comes natural to you, that feels good and gives your strength
What is it about change that makes it so scary or uncomfortable?
Is it fear of the unknown and uncertainty?
Why are we willing to compromise our true desires because of fear of change?
I define change as wanting something different. Whether it is a physical change, mental change, or career change
It has been my experience that most people will experience this in there career. They will compromise there dreams and stick with what they believe is security to there life in there jobs.
Is it really fear that we feel or is it our thoughts dictating our life? I think it is both. When I was at my last position I remember thinking that I didn’t want to be a quitter if I resigned. Well as you can see that thought was causing me to feel distressed and then created the action of doing nothing. The result of the thought and feelings was-I would stop dead in my tracks and force myself to stay in a place that I felt was toxic and unhealthy.
So I am here to say that life does happen after realizing that your own thoughts can hold you captive to our lives or in a cube. See we all have thoughts that could turn into beliefs and then they become limiting because they stop us from doing what we want to do.
Where do the beliefs come from?
Some of them come from our own rules and expectations that we place on our selves.
Some of them we got as children, some of the beliefs we picked up along the way of life. But I know for sure a lot of them come from our own society or what the world tells us.
Make a steady income, save for retirement, kids must go to a private school, don’t leave work early people will think I am lazy, things will work itself out, the harder you work the more money you will make, I am truly happy, but why do I feel so discontent -stay at the job you have you own so much pension, stay at my job because I have been here for so long, but why do I feel dissatisfied -so as you can see these beliefs can dictate your life because it creates blockage, feeling stuck and most importantly stops you from living your true desire.
Most of the sentences above could be thoughts at one point that have now become limiting beliefs because in some way it is causing you distress at some level or a bit of suffering but most importantly it is holding you back from getting what you want.
The other thing I would recall is accepting that you want change and being true to what you want. After accepting you want change, allow yourself to embrace that feeling of wanting change rather than introduce worry, fear or stress. When we begin to experience worry, fear, stress then we are creating resistance to change in some way and it may come from our thinking. Let your heart mange your life and use your mind as a tool to reach the goals you want. When our negative thoughts/limiting beliefs get in the way of our true desires then we know that there may be some resistance. For some of us this may not be the case and they hop skip to the next opportunity, take the risk, create a career transition and begin a discovering and exploring what they may like. I guess what I mean by career transition is doing something totally different. Doing that one thing you have truly desired to do. Not just desire but yearn for.
What kind of change do I yearn for?
What kind of work would allow me to follow my dream?
What talent or strength do I have that I enjoy and would love to capitalize on?
We each have something that comes natural to us, but the key is what comes natural to you, that feels good and gives your strength
Natural talent that feels good + activity that gives me strength = doing what I love
Steps of change
Accept – accept the situation at hand and stop fighting with reality
Embrace – embrace the potential opportunities ahead
How to identify resistance in yourself - Louis Hay says take a look at yourself in the mirror every morning and say you really love yourself: What do you really feel ? ( this helps you understand what you could be feeling as a starting point )
How to remove resistance –learn to love yourself, affirmations, journaling, practice discipline of law of attraction
Most important thing to remember is you deserve to do what you love –
What do you yearn for to change?
For more information on finding your real purpose email Ned Rios: ned@tranquilityalive.com or call 832-655-6990
Monday, July 28, 2008
Give Yourself Permission
So as I have been coaching clients I have realized more and more that we are not giving ourselves permission to rest, enjoy life or take a break. We are moving in a churn and burn society depleting all of the resources we have and then giving our personal selves such limited joy.
I coached a client the other day who came to me with what I call chaotic mind. She was desperately wanting me to give her permission to take 30 minutes a day to do nothing. Her “ to do list “ was running her life or should I say her thoughts, not her true self. All I could think about is why wouldn’t we give ourselves permission to take a break. Do we not feel worthy of a break? Do we not feel good enough? or Do we feel that if we do take a break and spend time doing what we want we may suddenly feel undeserving or feel guilty?
Why are we giving our energy away? Why do we need permission to allow ourselves time to enjoy the book we bought or just allow ourselves time to do nothing. The concept is fantastic. We all wait until vacation time to really give ourselves the time to wind down and relax. But what about the daily life we live? Are we keeping our daily life balanced by giving ourselves permission to enjoy our lives and take a break from the “ routine type “ efforts that can and will manage us if we are not careful.
Kathy Freston says it great in her book Quantum Wellness about " Balancing the Four R’s " regular, relate, rejuvenate and reach. I find as I coach ,that most people get stuck in the quadrant of Regular ( everything that is part of your everyday routine, set obligations) If you get stuck in this quadrant then you are fooled into thinking life is only about keeping your head above water. She also mentions most people are perfectionist who get stuck in the quadrant and live by a to do list and wake up in the middle of night panicked in what they forgot to do or didn’t do correctly. I myself have been this person before –Now I know if this happens to me then I am not balanced and need to reach for some fun or rejuvenate myself. She has a great reading on page 138 about the 4 quadrants of life.
I encourage you to look at your weeks and really figure out how often you want to give yourself permission to take 30 minutes or even an hour 2-3 times a week to do what you want to do. I find myself buying or making a great cup of coffee because that brings me great joy. I also like to stroll in an outside mall and just stroll. We all have responsibilities in our lives but I think the most important thing to remember is that they must NOT dictate who we are or overpower us.
I feel joy is found in some of the most simplistic moments…..like watching my dog sleep, being grateful for my life or listening to music really loud and singing. Those are some true joys for me that I give myself permission to do. We need to give ourselves permission to take a break and feel joy because it nurtures our soul and gives us positive energy.
What can you give yourself permission to do today?
I coached a client the other day who came to me with what I call chaotic mind. She was desperately wanting me to give her permission to take 30 minutes a day to do nothing. Her “ to do list “ was running her life or should I say her thoughts, not her true self. All I could think about is why wouldn’t we give ourselves permission to take a break. Do we not feel worthy of a break? Do we not feel good enough? or Do we feel that if we do take a break and spend time doing what we want we may suddenly feel undeserving or feel guilty?
Why are we giving our energy away? Why do we need permission to allow ourselves time to enjoy the book we bought or just allow ourselves time to do nothing. The concept is fantastic. We all wait until vacation time to really give ourselves the time to wind down and relax. But what about the daily life we live? Are we keeping our daily life balanced by giving ourselves permission to enjoy our lives and take a break from the “ routine type “ efforts that can and will manage us if we are not careful.
Kathy Freston says it great in her book Quantum Wellness about " Balancing the Four R’s " regular, relate, rejuvenate and reach. I find as I coach ,that most people get stuck in the quadrant of Regular ( everything that is part of your everyday routine, set obligations) If you get stuck in this quadrant then you are fooled into thinking life is only about keeping your head above water. She also mentions most people are perfectionist who get stuck in the quadrant and live by a to do list and wake up in the middle of night panicked in what they forgot to do or didn’t do correctly. I myself have been this person before –Now I know if this happens to me then I am not balanced and need to reach for some fun or rejuvenate myself. She has a great reading on page 138 about the 4 quadrants of life.
I encourage you to look at your weeks and really figure out how often you want to give yourself permission to take 30 minutes or even an hour 2-3 times a week to do what you want to do. I find myself buying or making a great cup of coffee because that brings me great joy. I also like to stroll in an outside mall and just stroll. We all have responsibilities in our lives but I think the most important thing to remember is that they must NOT dictate who we are or overpower us.
I feel joy is found in some of the most simplistic moments…..like watching my dog sleep, being grateful for my life or listening to music really loud and singing. Those are some true joys for me that I give myself permission to do. We need to give ourselves permission to take a break and feel joy because it nurtures our soul and gives us positive energy.
What can you give yourself permission to do today?
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Why do we hurt ourselves ? Offer self compassion.
Let's be kind to ourselves and offer self compassion?
We don’t realize each day in our lives that we find some way to hurt ourselves by participating in self destructive thinking or some form of addiction. For some of us it is both.
For me I turned to the addiction of smoking –that is how I could wallow in my bad day or weak moment. I would tell myself it was my reward or treat but it was really an emotional addiction. People would always say to me ( I always ignored ) that “smoking is so bad for you” I used to think gosh don’t they know I am smart and realize that. But what I slowly realized as a smoker was that I was punishing myself or participating in behavior that I thought favored my life and made me feel good.
But how could it feel good to me if it was so bad for me?
My brother in law said to me once “ Your body is like a temple why treat it like a playground? ” Those words stuck with me. Of course that did not stop me from smoking at the time but I did have a few thought provoking questions for myself.
Why was I treating my body so bad by smoking? Why would I internalize things to hurt myself by smoking?
That began a journey for myself and I started down a road of self discovery. I also realized as human beings we are running from our feelings through our thoughts or actions that lead to turning to some form of self destruction. I used smoking as an escape from running from what I was truly feeling.
Once I decided to quit I realized that I had a lot of unprocessed emotion. This article is not just about smoking it is about emotional addiction and creating self compassion for ourselves. Maybe I was always too hard on myself, creating high expectations and not being kind enough and good to me. I did a great job being good to everyone else, family, work, friends etc.
I was escaping a feeling of anxiety and fighting a feeling while using smoking to cope.
The thought I was telling myself ( one of many ) was “ life is too hard “ which gave me a feeling of defeat which in turn resulted in smoking. Our thoughts create our feelings and then in turn create the results or action. I then had to find a better feeling thought that I believed such as: I am beginning to enjoy life without smoking -which gave me a feeling of hope which in turn kept my momentum going by taking one step at a time or I should say 1 minute at a time for smokers.
See by choosing temporary vices like smoking, eating, shopping, gambling etc that are not healthy for us it tricks our mind into believing that we are feeling true joy but really it is a temporary fix. When we are in our wrong life and headed further and further away from our true selves we look for any substance or activity that dulls the feeling.
Once we escape our feelings we chose to be unconscious, once we choose to be unconscious, we are no longer present in our lives. If we are not being present in our lives then who are we really being? Our thinking?
Being present is important because it allows us to be fully engaged in the moment and not think about what needs to be done next week or what else needs to be done on our to do list.
We do ourselves a great disservice by not being present because it allows our thinking to dictate our lives.
3 tips if you find yourself being unconscious
1. Journal your thoughts with no judgment to understand what might be going on in your thinking –like if you miss a meeting don’t punish yourself with a bad thought say well this allows me time to regroup and slow down a few times a day
2. Allow yourself breathing space in your head by abandoning thoughts in your mind. Try doing an activity or meditation that is good for you. Walk in the park, reading, or by relaxing for 5 minutes to feel a sense of calmness.
3. Repeat your mantras that you really believe –like I am beginning to become healthy, I am learning to stay calm, I am following my heart and pursuing my dreams: this allows better feeling thoughts that create inspired actions
If you are living in your thinking then it is disregarding your heart – if you disregard your heart –you will detach from who you really are
Your heart knows your true desires, your mind is the tool to get it and your body knows how to navigate you along the way.
So next time you find yourself participating in an activity or vice that is not so healthy for you: ask yourself what feeling could I be fighting or denying myself to feel and how can I choose better feeling thoughts that create momentum for myself and more self compassion.
We don’t realize each day in our lives that we find some way to hurt ourselves by participating in self destructive thinking or some form of addiction. For some of us it is both.
For me I turned to the addiction of smoking –that is how I could wallow in my bad day or weak moment. I would tell myself it was my reward or treat but it was really an emotional addiction. People would always say to me ( I always ignored ) that “smoking is so bad for you” I used to think gosh don’t they know I am smart and realize that. But what I slowly realized as a smoker was that I was punishing myself or participating in behavior that I thought favored my life and made me feel good.
But how could it feel good to me if it was so bad for me?
My brother in law said to me once “ Your body is like a temple why treat it like a playground? ” Those words stuck with me. Of course that did not stop me from smoking at the time but I did have a few thought provoking questions for myself.
Why was I treating my body so bad by smoking? Why would I internalize things to hurt myself by smoking?
That began a journey for myself and I started down a road of self discovery. I also realized as human beings we are running from our feelings through our thoughts or actions that lead to turning to some form of self destruction. I used smoking as an escape from running from what I was truly feeling.
Once I decided to quit I realized that I had a lot of unprocessed emotion. This article is not just about smoking it is about emotional addiction and creating self compassion for ourselves. Maybe I was always too hard on myself, creating high expectations and not being kind enough and good to me. I did a great job being good to everyone else, family, work, friends etc.
I was escaping a feeling of anxiety and fighting a feeling while using smoking to cope.
The thought I was telling myself ( one of many ) was “ life is too hard “ which gave me a feeling of defeat which in turn resulted in smoking. Our thoughts create our feelings and then in turn create the results or action. I then had to find a better feeling thought that I believed such as: I am beginning to enjoy life without smoking -which gave me a feeling of hope which in turn kept my momentum going by taking one step at a time or I should say 1 minute at a time for smokers.
See by choosing temporary vices like smoking, eating, shopping, gambling etc that are not healthy for us it tricks our mind into believing that we are feeling true joy but really it is a temporary fix. When we are in our wrong life and headed further and further away from our true selves we look for any substance or activity that dulls the feeling.
Once we escape our feelings we chose to be unconscious, once we choose to be unconscious, we are no longer present in our lives. If we are not being present in our lives then who are we really being? Our thinking?
Being present is important because it allows us to be fully engaged in the moment and not think about what needs to be done next week or what else needs to be done on our to do list.
We do ourselves a great disservice by not being present because it allows our thinking to dictate our lives.
3 tips if you find yourself being unconscious
1. Journal your thoughts with no judgment to understand what might be going on in your thinking –like if you miss a meeting don’t punish yourself with a bad thought say well this allows me time to regroup and slow down a few times a day
2. Allow yourself breathing space in your head by abandoning thoughts in your mind. Try doing an activity or meditation that is good for you. Walk in the park, reading, or by relaxing for 5 minutes to feel a sense of calmness.
3. Repeat your mantras that you really believe –like I am beginning to become healthy, I am learning to stay calm, I am following my heart and pursuing my dreams: this allows better feeling thoughts that create inspired actions
If you are living in your thinking then it is disregarding your heart – if you disregard your heart –you will detach from who you really are
Your heart knows your true desires, your mind is the tool to get it and your body knows how to navigate you along the way.
So next time you find yourself participating in an activity or vice that is not so healthy for you: ask yourself what feeling could I be fighting or denying myself to feel and how can I choose better feeling thoughts that create momentum for myself and more self compassion.
The self coaching tool I use helps access and find better feeling thoughts. I work with clients to establish emotional wellness and help access the thoughts or limiting beliefs that drive them to self destruction or addiction. My coach friend and mentor Brooke Castillo created the tool and it really works! It has been 5 years since I quit.
Sunday, June 1, 2008
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
Embrace Change
Embrace Change
Here is a slideshow that we put together for a Wellness Expo in Houston this past weekend. I feel this strongly depicts the transformation of change and all its possibilities.
Enjoy!
Here is a slideshow that we put together for a Wellness Expo in Houston this past weekend. I feel this strongly depicts the transformation of change and all its possibilities.
Enjoy!
Tuesday, May 6, 2008
What pair of jeans are you wearing?
Or we will look for the latest and greatest pair of jeans and forget about how they may look on us.
If your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all.”
~Anna Quintile
I one time heard this saying “ Wealth follows wisdom “– I feel it’s true.
When you are doing something you love wealth follows you….I truly believe that. We each have a purpose and something we want to contribute to this life. When you are aligned with your emotions and your well being and you follow your purpose – you can never go wrong. If you follow your heart you are never wrong. We are always caught up into what is the right thing to do – but sometimes we need to turn that question right back at ourselves. Each person has the there own truth within themselves and there own answers inside themselves.
Could that be the same for finding a career? Are we only choosing the name brand jeans, the most expensive jeans that we see in the high dollar boutique or dept stores?
So why would we only choose something uncomfortable but looks good to the world and something that doesn’t feel right ----but the brand is right , it’s the most fashionable and stylish then why not buy it.
But why choose a pair of jeans that doesn’t make you feel great? That is the real question.
Do you choose a pair of jeans because it’s the most popular? Do you choose a pair of jeans because of the price? Same rules apply for your job or your career. Do you only choose or stay in a job because of the money? Or choose a job because it looks good?
Make a vow to choose a career: (or a pair of jeans)
1. That feels good
2. 80% of the job activities feel good to you
3. Trust that if you follow your heart you are never wrong
4. Trust that if something is true for you it will manifest and unfold easily
What pair of jeans are you wearing? Is it time to shop for something that makes you feel good, confident and only matters to you.
What do choosing a pair of jeans and choosing a career have in common. –They should both always feel good to you –
So what do you want to feel like in your pair of jeans?
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Passion is Contagious.
For me it was like complete resistance to the weekend ending. What can I do on Sunday nights to stay up and have fun so I don’t have to think about Monday mornings?.
Sometimes I would start a movie at like 10 pm so that I can make the night last even longer.
Here are a few other symptoms
Kill time at work by talking to a co worker and avoiding my work
Sunday night blues
Monday morning you would rather sleep in than get up
You walk around feeling tired and can’t figure out why because you had over 8 hours of sleep –
Feel exhausted or fatigued physically and mentally
Forgot the last time you enjoyed ...well anything
1. I encourage you to listen to you bodies because they never lie
2. Find some leisure activities that you truly enjoy and love ( maybe lean on activities you did as a child)
3. Think about what it would be like to live the life you want – What would be your perfect day? Just dream.
Would you work outside with your laptop with a hot cup of coffee?
Would you go out for a run and take as long as you would like
What would that freedom taste like?
I call this living your passion.
What is the definition of passion?
For me passion is living light, with freedom, true purpose, and feeling alive. Not just doing something I love but living the life you love in all areas of your life. You just don’t have passion in your work. Once you get passion in one area of your life it is so contagious that you want it all!!!!
I know I know. By now you guys are like yeah well what about my 6 figure salary, nice car and mortgage etc that I am not ready to give up. I am not saying quit your job tomorrow. What I am saying is be true to yourself and take the steps and find the courage to begin discovering what you really want and what makes you feel alive. Think thoughts of being true to yourself and the job you may really want. Focus on what you want to feel like.
What would passion taste like for you?
For me it’s the passion to feel alive when I coach. Coaching is what I love to do and it is what was meant for me to do. It will lead me to even more opportunities that match my soul because it is true for me.
What would passion feel like for you?
Monday, March 31, 2008
Not Comfortable being Uncomfortable
Not comfortable being uncomfortable – I call it being and sitting in grey
Why are we so uncomfortable sitting in grey
Why do things need to be black and white or quick to decide..
What is grey?
Like clouds
Like fog in the road
Or even in the sky
I like to say grey is when we can’t see in front of us.
To me when things go grey, sit with it –there is a reason you can’t see clearly
Grey is like making no plan for yourself in that moment or when you go feel uncomfortable. Sit.
Now I am not saying that having an idea of where you think things are going in your life is fine – but be willing to change, adjust, tweak or throw out the goal or plan that you were hanging on to so tightly especially when it doesn’t feel right or feel good to you.
Living your best life means feeling good
Living well means feeling good now
Sometimes we forget about our wants, our desire for the things we love and what our heart wants
Some of us are so busy living in our head that we have completely disregarded our heart. Some of us put our heart on the back burner because we are living in our minds
We are taught our mind is powerful, and it is, but our heart is where the passion of living lies.
Have you ever heard someone say I feel passion in my mind –you may see it in your mind but you feel it in your heart. Our hearts tell us what we want all of the time but are we listening?
People always talk about listening to the whisper, staying quite enough in solitude to hear our heart and body ---for some of us our hearts are yearning to be heard.
But what comes up for people when we say we are listening to out hearts -well some of us pretend we are listening and living with our hearts and some of us lie to ourselves ( very common practice done by all human beings )
You can repeat to yourself over and over again and remind yourself to live with your heart –BUT that may not be the answer. By actually allowing yourself to feel is were the heart is...feel the joy now, feel the happiness now
Why is it so important to live with your heart?
Because it is in our hearts that lies the passion, the passion for love, passion to live, passion to care, passion to nurture and passion to feel alive. We must also feel the passion to wake up to ourselves and the desire to meet up with who we really are.
Some of us walk around sluggish and not feeling. Some of us know exactly what to do but have self doubt, fear, insecurities, confusion etc. If we live in our passion would there be so much suffering from our bodies, would there be so many problems with obesity, cancer, addictions in all forms etc.
Our bodies don’t lie – listen to what you are feeling –just listen. I like to say take a break from your mind and your thinking –take a minute and listen to your heart and feel
Connect yourself emotionally and physically
Do you like what you feel?
Do you hear what you feel?
Being well and feeling well leads to living your best life without trying so hard
Stop trying and just be in the moment and listen
Your heart is never wrong, your whispers are never wrong, and your instinct is never wrong
Your heart belongs to you and for you–not only for your family, wife, dog, boyfriend, girlfriend, sports game, shopping, husbands etc
So why not choose to use it wisely?
Your heart guides you to your true hearts desire and your true life
So the next time you are confronted with grey –
1. sit in the moment
2. you may want to say -I am ok in this place
3. now repeat # 2 and do it with a smile -
4. Ask yourself what is the lesson that I could be experiencing
5. inspiration: you can always make a message out of your mess
My name is Ned Rios and I am here on earth to coach, coach you through the heart and from the heart only for a life for you, not against you
Why are we so uncomfortable sitting in grey
Why do things need to be black and white or quick to decide..
What is grey?
Like clouds
Like fog in the road
Or even in the sky
I like to say grey is when we can’t see in front of us.
To me when things go grey, sit with it –there is a reason you can’t see clearly
Grey is like making no plan for yourself in that moment or when you go feel uncomfortable. Sit.
Now I am not saying that having an idea of where you think things are going in your life is fine – but be willing to change, adjust, tweak or throw out the goal or plan that you were hanging on to so tightly especially when it doesn’t feel right or feel good to you.
Living your best life means feeling good
Living well means feeling good now
Sometimes we forget about our wants, our desire for the things we love and what our heart wants
Some of us are so busy living in our head that we have completely disregarded our heart. Some of us put our heart on the back burner because we are living in our minds
We are taught our mind is powerful, and it is, but our heart is where the passion of living lies.
Have you ever heard someone say I feel passion in my mind –you may see it in your mind but you feel it in your heart. Our hearts tell us what we want all of the time but are we listening?
People always talk about listening to the whisper, staying quite enough in solitude to hear our heart and body ---for some of us our hearts are yearning to be heard.
But what comes up for people when we say we are listening to out hearts -well some of us pretend we are listening and living with our hearts and some of us lie to ourselves ( very common practice done by all human beings )
You can repeat to yourself over and over again and remind yourself to live with your heart –BUT that may not be the answer. By actually allowing yourself to feel is were the heart is...feel the joy now, feel the happiness now
Why is it so important to live with your heart?
Because it is in our hearts that lies the passion, the passion for love, passion to live, passion to care, passion to nurture and passion to feel alive. We must also feel the passion to wake up to ourselves and the desire to meet up with who we really are.
Some of us walk around sluggish and not feeling. Some of us know exactly what to do but have self doubt, fear, insecurities, confusion etc. If we live in our passion would there be so much suffering from our bodies, would there be so many problems with obesity, cancer, addictions in all forms etc.
Our bodies don’t lie – listen to what you are feeling –just listen. I like to say take a break from your mind and your thinking –take a minute and listen to your heart and feel
Connect yourself emotionally and physically
Do you like what you feel?
Do you hear what you feel?
Being well and feeling well leads to living your best life without trying so hard
Stop trying and just be in the moment and listen
Your heart is never wrong, your whispers are never wrong, and your instinct is never wrong
Your heart belongs to you and for you–not only for your family, wife, dog, boyfriend, girlfriend, sports game, shopping, husbands etc
So why not choose to use it wisely?
Your heart guides you to your true hearts desire and your true life
So the next time you are confronted with grey –
1. sit in the moment
2. you may want to say -I am ok in this place
3. now repeat # 2 and do it with a smile -
4. Ask yourself what is the lesson that I could be experiencing
5. inspiration: you can always make a message out of your mess
My name is Ned Rios and I am here on earth to coach, coach you through the heart and from the heart only for a life for you, not against you
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
What is Happiness ? Moist Chocolate Raspberry Cake
What is happiness? moist chocolate raspberry cake
We always hear the saying – What do you want this year in 2008; most people will say –
“I want to find true happiness “
For some of us we will look everywhere – traveling, restaurants, shopping, bars, exciting places, etc
But why is it that we would not look with in ourselves? Why is that we won't allow ourselves to look within, is happiness something that you find under a rock or is happiness a state of mind?
We always say that we are going to be happy when we finally get that car, when we finally get that raise, or if we finally get that outfit sitting in the window at Banana Republic, or how about the fabulous boyfriend or girl by your side – in order to be happy
Ok folks...I hate to break it to you but if you are looking everywhere else but within yourself - you will never find it – happiness is a state of excitements – an excitement that fills your heart and brings positive energy around you
Happiness feels good now – happiness feels
We act like someone out there is hiding it from us, that only certain people are privileged to get it. Happiness is not the Louis Vuitton purse on your arm or the fancy sports car. Don’t get me wrong those things are fabulous because they could be like icing on the cake. However, happiness is an ingredient to the batter in the cake.
So why is it that we are not living in the happiness now. We are to enjoy the journey of life and be happy along the way even when we are learning life lessons. Who said we can’t be happy while discovering the world, discovering ourselves, and while embracing our challenges along the way.
I challenge you to shift your energy to gratitude. So it is through my own personal experience that the true foundation for happiness is in our hearts, true foundation of happiness is gratitude, and the other ingredient for happiness is being yourself and telling the truth.
So what is your recipe for happiness? What’s in your batter for the moist chocolate raspberry cake? Take a different approach to what you want this year and be inspired. Change it up. Instead of sitting there with a blank page trying to right your goals for 2008. Think about what is your recipe for happiness first.
I am sharing mine.
1 prayer a day
5 written or thoughts of gratitude
10 smiles a day
1 open heart
2 cup happy thoughts
2 cups of happy feelings
1½ cup of courage
1½ cup of kindness to someone you don’t know
Mix ingredients for happiness each day – take 1 bite a day or more for emotional wellness
Maya Angelou said that the 2 most important virtues are courage and gratitude
Be grateful each day by writing it down. I have a sticker on my toothbrush to remind me what things I am grateful for that day and courage.... be courageous enough for your truth and allow yourself to feel it.
We always hear the saying – What do you want this year in 2008; most people will say –
“I want to find true happiness “
For some of us we will look everywhere – traveling, restaurants, shopping, bars, exciting places, etc
But why is it that we would not look with in ourselves? Why is that we won't allow ourselves to look within, is happiness something that you find under a rock or is happiness a state of mind?
We always say that we are going to be happy when we finally get that car, when we finally get that raise, or if we finally get that outfit sitting in the window at Banana Republic, or how about the fabulous boyfriend or girl by your side – in order to be happy
Ok folks...I hate to break it to you but if you are looking everywhere else but within yourself - you will never find it – happiness is a state of excitements – an excitement that fills your heart and brings positive energy around you
Happiness feels good now – happiness feels
We act like someone out there is hiding it from us, that only certain people are privileged to get it. Happiness is not the Louis Vuitton purse on your arm or the fancy sports car. Don’t get me wrong those things are fabulous because they could be like icing on the cake. However, happiness is an ingredient to the batter in the cake.
So why is it that we are not living in the happiness now. We are to enjoy the journey of life and be happy along the way even when we are learning life lessons. Who said we can’t be happy while discovering the world, discovering ourselves, and while embracing our challenges along the way.
I challenge you to shift your energy to gratitude. So it is through my own personal experience that the true foundation for happiness is in our hearts, true foundation of happiness is gratitude, and the other ingredient for happiness is being yourself and telling the truth.
So what is your recipe for happiness? What’s in your batter for the moist chocolate raspberry cake? Take a different approach to what you want this year and be inspired. Change it up. Instead of sitting there with a blank page trying to right your goals for 2008. Think about what is your recipe for happiness first.
I am sharing mine.
1 prayer a day
5 written or thoughts of gratitude
10 smiles a day
1 open heart
2 cup happy thoughts
2 cups of happy feelings
1½ cup of courage
1½ cup of kindness to someone you don’t know
Mix ingredients for happiness each day – take 1 bite a day or more for emotional wellness
Maya Angelou said that the 2 most important virtues are courage and gratitude
Be grateful each day by writing it down. I have a sticker on my toothbrush to remind me what things I am grateful for that day and courage.... be courageous enough for your truth and allow yourself to feel it.
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